8. YOU BOTH HAVE A LOT OF GROWING UP TO DO
Moving in together is a big deal. It’s not just cohabitating in the same space. That is something you did in college with your roommate. If you are still googling how to adult, the last thing you need is to add another human being to the equation.
7. YOU ARE FIGHTING 3-5 DAYS OUT OF THE WEEK
You have an incredible weekend together, only to have a fight on Monday. On Tuesday you call a truce. By Wednesday you’re back to giving each other the silent treatment. Those high and lows might work when each of you has their own place but it won’t once you’re living together. Or do you want to sleep on the couch a few times a week?
6. YOU REALLY HAVE TO GO OUT OF YOUR WAY TO PLEASE HIM
The old adage remains true. When it comes to love and life, it’s all about the little things. Grand gestures of romance are welcome from time to time. But it’s important to savor the day to day. If you have to switch around your life, schedule, and goals to please him, then your relationships is doomed, my friend.
5. HE’S PUTTING A LOT OF PRESSURE TO
Ladies get the bad of rep of hiding bridal magazines under their bed but often it’s guys who want to take the extra step. If he keeps bringing up the subject and pressuring you into a decision, then it’s probably not a good idea. You move in with me because you want to. Not because you were convinced. Capisce?
4. YOU AREN’T COMFORTABLE BEING YOURSELF AROUND HIM
Living together means no filter added. You need to be yourself 100% of the time or you’ll snap. If you aren’t ready to get real about the good, the bad and the annoying, then it will not work.
3. YOU’RE DOING IT TO FIX PROBLEMS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
Do not, we repeat do not, try to fix problems by moving in together. It will just aggravate whatever the issue. Talk it out, fix it and when you’re back to honeymooning, consider the move. Better to be safe than sorry!
2. YOU DON’T HAVE SIMILAR LIFE GOALS
Sometimes you fall in love with somebody, but long term goals are incompatible. Maybe you’re adventurous and he’s all corporate. Or you’re a career lady and he wants to sail to Tahiti. Save yourself from the heartbreak down the line. Synchronize before you take a big step like this.
1. YOUR GUT IS TELLING YOU TO STAY WHERE YOU ARE
You have your beloved apartment with all your trinkets, memories and comfort. It’s home. After years of hard work, perspiration and dedication, you’ve made a life for yourself there. Deep-down, it’s where you feel like you truly belong. Don’t fight your gut or it will tell you I told you so later on.
Share this article with your loved one before you take the leap. Stay tuned for more dating advice from OurStyleBlog editors. Good luck, lovebirds!